Why Being You Is Brave
In a world that is so fixated on trying to accommodate all types of people and persuasions, it can be a fearful thing to just be you. And even more so, to have an opinion about yourself and others. After all, when there is now no “normal”, it kind of opens the door for ‘anything goes’. And when ‘anything goes’, there is no recourse, no room for judgment at all.
The older I get, the more I am challenged in my thinking.
I am challenged to better understand God, and also myself.
Challenged to accept others on a deeper level and love unconditionally.
When I talked to God about this he told me that it was not my job to condemn or condone the behaviour of others, but to love them as He loves them, unconditionally.
Unconditional Love for Self
And that unconditional love must be extended to myself. For if I hold up a standard for others, yet don’t have the same standards for myself, doesn’t that make me a hypocrite? If I say, “You are bad because you have sin type A” and yet I am indulging in sin type B and someone I know who professes to be a Christian is indulging in sin type C, and I don’t apply the same message of badness to them all, then where is the equity? And to the same measure, if I am willing to forgive others their weaknesses, surely I should be willing to forgive myself also.
“For all have fallen short of the glory of God…” and “If a man says he has no sin, the truth does not live in him…”
So I am content not to CONDEMN nor to CONDONE, but to “take the log out of my own eye”.
Getting back to the thought about loving all of who we are, wasn’t it Jesus who said:
“And love your neighbour as yourself…”?
It appears to me that it is the loving of self that I find sometimes stuffs us all up. Tthe backing of self, to the exclusion of the opinion of others, that is our greatest challenge. And it is why I believe that ‘being you’ is brave and takes courage. To unapologetically own every part of your being…spot, wrinkle and blemish…and to own your behaviours…the good, bad and downright ugly. This is truly brave.
A Famous Speech
In a famous speech by Nelson Mandella, who quotes the words of Marianne Williamson, he succinctly put it like this:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
An Inspiring Video
In this video, I love the analogy of being either an ‘aspirin or a vitamin’ in life. If we are the light of the world, then we need to be the brilliance in the world, unfettered, unadulterated, as God intended. I also love that thought, “What you want, wants you.” When your expiration date has come, it is time to let go of what is not serving you and to pursue what it is that you want.
“There will never be a perfect time for you to be the person that you were meant to be.”
‘Aligning your head, heart and hands’ so that you feet can follow.
“Rejection can be the greatest gift.”
“What you don’t deal with will eventually deal with you.”
Recognising your blind spots and your opportunities.
It takes a certain kind of braveness to achieve this state of independent being.
I challenge you to sit with this thought…that you are brilliant. That you were created in God’s image. Everything about who you are is important and it is your duty to serve God with all of your being, doing all things as unto Him.